A dating expert has shared the primary reason why women often stop being intimate with their husbands.
Anyone in a long-term relationship knows that intimacy can sometimes begin to wane over time. However, a dating expert has now shed light on the main factor behind why women lose attraction to their husbands and long-term partners.
Dr. Sarah Hensley recently discussed this issue in a viral TikTok video, revealing why this shift in attraction happens. Her insights have sparked a lot of discussion, with many people weighing in with their thoughts in the comment section.
One writes: “Is it cause you end up having to parent your husband either because he is or acts like he is incapable of doing anything for himself?”
Another adds: “Just a joke, but its because she doesn’t have to keep him from leaving anymore because she’ll get half his stuff if he divorces?”
A third says: “I will tell you that my ex stopped caring about his personal hygiene. I love a man who smells good. I spent a fortune on wonderful colones—the ones that get my attention in a public space. Yes, we talked about it—he didn’t care. Big turn off.”
“It’s always got to come down to ‘how much’ sex people are having. I’d rather stay single than have that kind of pressure again,” another pens.
The dating coach, who has a PhD in social psychology, has shared the shocking information in a TikTok.
The viral video has accumulated almost 50,000 likes and over 7,000 comments since it was first posted.
In the clip, she says: “The primary reason why women stop having s** with their husbands is because they don’t feel emotionally safe.
“The reason that they don’t feel emotionally safe is because their attachment needs are not being met inside of their relationship.”
Hensley goes on: “Attachment needs our deepest needs inside of a romantic relationship, and if those things are not fulfilled we will not feel emotionally safe.
“Especially for women when there is a lack of emotional safety, they start feeling very unsafe giving their bodies to their partner, and they start to feel extremely un-attracted to their partner.”
She continues: “For the anxious-preoccupied, their greatest need is love, affection, and reassurance. They require frequent confirmation that you love them and that the relationship is stable, every single day.”
Hensley adds: “For the dismissive-avoidant woman, the key is space, autonomy, and an absence of criticism—essentially, peace and harmony within the relationship.”
According to Psychology Today, emotional safety is a cornerstone of healthy relationships and overall emotional well-being. It allows individuals to feel accepted and safe enough to be their authentic selves.
Rooted in our primal need for physical safety, emotional safety enables us to form deep connections with others. Without it, people can feel threatened, isolated, and distressed. Therefore, it’s vital to foster environments where people feel valued and accepted to promote both mental health and strong relationships.
